Gentle Introduction to Interoception & Body Image

What’s “interoception” Steph?

Simply put, interoception is the connection between our body and brain. This connection can get interrupted for all sorts of reasons, but some common things that can get in the way are trauma, and being conditioned to ignore our bodies signals to please others or to fit a schedule or expectation.

(N.B. If you have experienced trauma that has made being in your body very unsafe (e.g. experiencing abuse, violence or sexual trauma), I would suggest it is useful to have been supported with those experiences before starting to reconnect with your body)

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Gentle Interoception Check In -

Are you hot or cold? Do you need a drink or bathroom break? Are you tired or awake?]

Research has started to show a connection between low levels of interoception and poor body image (https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2021/09/210903085908.htm), and indeed some of the steps of intuitive eating and HAES inclusive care already encourage a reconnection between mind and body – what movement feels good for you, what tastes good, what satisfies, feeling when are you hungry and when are you full.

We can encourage reconnection to our bodies in other ways too, by checking in with other body functions and needs, getting curious about what’s going on and tending to the things that need tending to – like not putting off going to the loo because you want to do more work, or not asking for a drink of water because you don’t want to be a bother.

This might be super tough at first, especially if we’re used to putting our needs last, but with regular practice, we can strengthen the connection between our bodily signals and brain again, and use our own needs as a barometer of when to eat/sleep/exercise/rest/call a friend/cuddle up under a blanket cuz it’s hella cold.

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Disordered Eating and Social Media

It’s already been a month since journalist Saman Javed approached the charity I was working with to ask about disordered eating and Tiktok for Eating Disorders Awareness Week 2021 – this year is really flying by for me!

You can read the article here – Eating Disorder Awareness Week: The Dangers Of TikTok’s ‘What I Eat In A Day’ Videos – but obviously not everything Saman and I spoke about was able to be posted in one article – (partly because I am pretty verbose when I get passionate), so I thought I’d include my full responses here (from 4th March 2021) –

SJ: Has (ED Charity) seen any connection between the growing popularity of TikTok in the last year and the number of people suffering with eating disorders?

SR: The last year has certainly seen a sharp increase in disordered eating behaviours (https://www.theguardian.com/society/2020/dec/16/shape-rise-in-number-of-children-in-england-seeking-help-for-eating-disorders , with BEAT reporting a 97% increase in contacts for support compared to the same period in 2019, there’s lots of different factors at play here, not least of all a global pandemic and year of uncertainty, isolation and fear, where a lot of younger people have had their lives disrupted by changes in schooling, university, or being subject to furlough and job losses  – however, as cited by https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7300468/  (Rodgers et al 2020), one of the exacerbating factors is media effects. Fatphobia is not hard to stumble across on TikTok, whether subtle or extremely overt, under the guise of “well meaning (but often over simplified or simply incorrect) health advice” or actively shaming people for eating at all. Especially in this time where real-life interaction is, necessarily, for public safety and the preservation of the NHS, at an all time low, people are increasingly relying on social media for entertainment and human contact, and to be confronted by such distressing messages, along with disturbing rhetoric from the government around weight (https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/news/anti-obesity-proposals-slammed ), can create an environment where restriction, bingeing or purging behaviours can emerge and start to take hold.  

SJ: Do you think social media platforms are doing enough to monitor content which could be triggering for those recovering or create disordered eating habits?

SR: I personally do not. Part of our ongoing work with disordered eating and eating distress is to be aware of what is happening in the fight against disordered eating and weight stigma, which includes on social media, and both anecdotally amongst the body inclusive influencers and content creators I am personally aware of, and in the wider community, there are widespread reports of more inclusive content being removed from Tiktok and driving people who don’t meet the “Tiktok Standards off the platform altogether – https://www.shape.com/lifestyle/mind-and-body/tiktok-censorship-abnormal-body-shapes  – https://qz.com/1969252/does-tiktok-have-a-problem-with-black-womens-bodies/ , all the while seemingly encouraging dangerous trends, diets and ways of body-checking that I don’t even want to name for fear of giving them more publicity. Instagram has made some steps towards removing pro-ana/ED content, such as regulation of some more overt promotion of “skinny” (i.e. laxative) teas, however Tiktok seems to be lagging very far behind in responsibility to its increasingly younger users. 

SJ: At the end of 2020 TikTok said it would be investigating and banning certain search terms after harmful pro-anorexia content was found on the platform – has the platform been working with (ED Charity) around this at all?

SR: We’re a small local charity based in the North East of England, so it would be unlikely for us to hear from them, heh, but I am aware of the criticism they have faced and that BEAT have made statements asking them to take responsibility. A search for “pro ana” on Tik tok now brings back only the BEAT helpline, but I searched just the letters “ED” and on the front page, the algorithm chose among the top 2 search results a tiktok which features many lingering shots of the body of a person who seems to be dangerously underweight, and I would say the first several seconds could not be reasonably distinguished from pro-ana material. There is also no option to report something as promoting or certainly publicising dangerous disordered eating – only suicide, self harm, and “dangerous acts” or “other”. 

SJ: What is (ED Charity)’s view on the trend of ‘What I Eat In A Day’ videos, especially when those videos contain calorie counts, people eating in calorie ‘deficits’ and people avoiding certain food groups.

SR: I believe that as well as perpetuating the misguided idea that people should eat the same things or amount of calories each day, it brings another dangerous level of competitiveness to the fore – something already found in restrictive eating disorders. Every human has different needs, that are dependent on so many different things, not least tiredness, stress and genetics. Giving firm numbers such as calorie counts to aim for often seeps into the mind as a “fact” or a “target” – we crave certainty in an uncertain world! Carbs and fats are often demonised in these sorts of videos – both of which are essential for your body and brain to work properly. Calorie restriction often leads to changes in personality, behaviour and thought patterns, and can lead to obsessive thoughts around food – leading people to believe their appetite is somehow unusual, when in fact, their body is fighting to keep them alive – for more info on the effects of restriction on the body and mood – https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/-/media/CCI/Mental-Health-Professionals/Eating-Disorders/Eating-Disorders—Information-Sheets/Eating-Disorders-Information-Sheet—34—What-is-Starvation-Syndrome.pdf 

SJ: What advice would you give to people using TikTok and seeing these videos?

Please don’t! Although, obviously I know it’s not as simple as that. But the first defence against unhelpful and triggering content is to protect yourself against it when you can – block, mute, scroll past. Your social media is your space, and it’s okay to curate it, to stop engaging with things that make you feel unhappy and worth less. 

If you’re not able to do this, something you can try when you find yourself applying these unrealistic and dangerous standards to your day to day life and habits is – “Would I want my friend/younger sibling/partner to follow this advice/standard, and live like this?”. Reframing your expectations of yourself versus what you would want another person to do can be really helpful – it can bring into focus that you would probably never want another person to force themselves to ignore their hunger, or shame themselves for their body – and your life and happiness are worth just as much as theirs are, I promise.

Busy to Bored and Back Again

You get to the end of a stressful, packed week. If anyone had asked you on Wednesday what you wanted to do all weekend, you would have said “Nothing! Just relax!” 

But by Saturday night, you’re searching for anything to ease a weird sense of restlessness. Maybe you snack too much, put a series on Netflix that you ignore, scroll through apps on your phone, skip between tasks. You get to work on Monday not feeling refreshed, but resentful that the time passed so unsatisfyingly.

There are different parts of our brain, that evolved at different times. The reptilian and limbic brain systems control vital functions, and are very much concerned with survival. The neocortex developed much later, and is in control of the higher functions, understand culture and humour, working out how to use tools. 

The earlier parts of the brain learned how to keep us alive before pizza delivery existed, when food was a scarce resource, and therefore would prefer we didn’t waste precious energy on non-essential tasks – which can produce a strong urge to do nothing, to stay in bed all day, to fantasise about holidays in the middle of nowhere in an attempt to escape having to do anything at all. 

However, the neocortex isn’t a fan of being idle without purpose. The higher functioning part of the brain wants problems to solve, fulfilment, satisfaction. New and interesting information. It jumps at new notifications on your phone, wants to be occupied, and can become very distracting otherwise, resulting in anything from fidgeting and irritability to anxiety. We are very responsive to perceived urgency (“What if this text is important?” “What if this email is from my boss?” “What if that news alert is that WW3 was just declared?!”), often at the expense of what is actually important – maybe the meal you just cooked goes cold because of the Facebook message, or you end up staying up too late because there’s a limited time event in your online game.

It’s this tug of war between ancient urges and more modern ones that can lead to a sense of dissatisfaction – perhaps you think the antidote to your stressful week is a pyjama day on Sunday, but the blues set in and you feel like the day has been wasted at 8pm.

Or perhaps you go the other way, and when the boredom starts to creep in you find yourself feeding the urge for satisfaction with online casual games, or arguing on twitter, getting little hits of satisfaction or righteous indignation, but find it interfering with your relaxation and leaving you even more stressed.

Either way, these situations are fed by a lack of satisfying, structured activities. 

While it might seem trite to recommend a hobby, creativity and community are ways of using part of your free time in a rejuvenating way. And I don’t mean you have to join a life drawing class – creativity is much, much wider than that. Anything from cooking to writing, board games to dancing can connect you to other people in ways that please all parts of our brains. 

Bessel Van Der Kolk, a leading trauma specialist and former Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, even recommends yoga, drumming and dancing to help overcome serious trauma, as this is how deeply communal activities can reconnect people to their bodies and the present. 

Hopefully understanding why the urge to curl up on the sofa is so powerful when you’re busy but sometimes uncomfortable once you’re there, will help you find the motivation to get involved with something you can really be passionate about.

Further information: 

Therapist Uncensored: “Challenge Your Busy Identity” Podcast and Show Notes

Bessel Van Der Kolk: The Body Keeps The Score

The Language of Gratitude

I’ve recently been working on what Brené Brown calls “an attitude of gratitude” – making time each day to be thankful for the people around you, for the life you have been able to cultivate with the help of others.

No-one flourishes without connecting to others, and no-one joyful does it alone. Pay no mind to the faux motivational instagram posts, the political rhetoric, or indeed the rappers – in fact, a Drake track about him doing “it all by myself” has 3 other lyricists credited (not to mention producers, the owners of the studio it was recorded, the people who helped shoot the album cover… do you see where I’m going with this!).

However, while trying to find words to express to my loved ones how thankful I am for their support, humour and presence, I stumbled across something rather dismaying about the English language, which would certainly account for some of the negative connotations around asking for help, or even wanting to in the first place.

The majority of synonyms for the word “gratitude” or phrases around thanks contain an imbalance of power, or an insinuation that you now owe the person who has chosen to help you.

“Indebted”

“Obliged”

“Beholden”

“I owe you one”

“How can I ever repay you?”

Even words like “credit” are connected most often to monetary value, a debt that must be repaid. Sometimes when offered help, people resent being thought of as a “charity case”, (which has so many problematic connotations I would need a seperate post just to unpack it).

Amongst those I have spoken with in my practice, I hear a lot of fear around asking for help, some people practically recoiling from the idea of being a “burden”, that any “favour” is too much to request, that needing others is a sign of personal weakness, that if you were good enough or strong enough you wouldn’t have to ask for help. And while perhaps it is technically possible to survive while trying not to rely on anyone, I don’t believe any relationship can be equal and satisfying if one party is always wary of becoming indebted. While making an effort to have balance in relationships is important, there must be no score card, and if there is then perhaps there needs to be some light shed on why that is.

If you feel like you can give out help yet not want receive it, do you know why that is?

Or perhaps you find yourself lending too much of your energy and feel resentment when it is not “paid back”? 

We are innately social creatures, with brains built for connecting to others. Would you like to thrive rather than just survive? To stop avoiding new situations or taking chances because if anything unpredictable happens, you believe you will have to fix it all by yourself? 

Perhaps investigating your language of gratitude might shift your mindset.

Best wishes

Stephanie Radford MBACP

Owner/Psychotherapeutic Counsellor

Northern Aurora Counselling